Wednesday, December 13, 2017

My Life of Late





In my last blog post, Will had just turned 13 and we had an awesome trip to NYC.  That seems like forever ago!  The trip I’m planning now is to the British Isles to celebrate Bonnie’s graduation from high school and me finishing grad school.  I started in January 2016, and it has pretty much consumed my life.  I am so glad the end is in sight!  In late 2015, I started picking up a few shifts a month at our tiny local hospital.  They have a few uncomplicated medical patients at any given time, but most of the patients are in sub-acute rehab.  Working there seemed like a vacation.  It was so laid back.   ICU was gearing up for a huge construction project, and I felt like moving to the small hospital full-time would be wise, so I officially transferred in February 2016.  I worked for a year there on night shift.   I started my clinical rotations in January 2017, and I swapped to day shift.  The program has grown and we are always full, so it is much busier than it used to be.  I have worked three days a week, had clinical two days a week, and had class one or two days a week.  When I say I’ve been busy, it’s no exaggeration!  I am now off school for a whole month, and it feels so good!


6 out of 7 semesters complete!!!  Lori has been my constant companion.  It is like a three-legged race.  When I am weak, she is strong, and vice-versa.

An early December snowfall - 2017
We have pet therapy at my little hospital.  This is Indy.  I love his Friday visits!
Matt and I have taken a few trips.  In August 2016, we celebrated our 20th anniversary in Clearwater Beach and we swam with the dolphins in Crystal River, Florida.  Last December we went to the Florida Keys.  Last spring, we went to Mexico Beach to try it on for size as a potential place to relocate.  We will be going to Destin next month for the same reason. We have taken our annual beach vacations to SGI with my parents each summer.  This past summer, I spent a week at sleep away camp for kids with type 1 diabetes.  It was part of my pediatrics clinical.  It was fun.  I took a quick trip to Saint Jude in Memphis with my good friend, Tiffany, and her daughter, Ava, who had been treated there for brain cancer.  Ava was having a shunt surgery.  In August 2017, I took Luke and Rosemary to Sweetwater, Tennessee to see the total eclipse of the sun.  It is a memory I will always cherish.  I also bought myself a car last summer - a Mini Cooper.  Yes it’s tiny and impractical, and I don’t care.  I love it!

20th anniversary trip to Clearwater Beach.  Matt and I saw the green flash at sunset!
kayaking through the mangroves in Marathon


This is how we tourist.
 
Eclipse fun!

Sweetwater, Tennesee - August 21, 2017.  Taken 20 minutes before the total eclipse of the sun.






Coopy

Bonnie is now 17 years old.  She attends the local tech school through a program called Move On When Ready, so she gets college credit for her classes.   She has been accepted to her two top choice colleges and will more than likely be attending the University of North Georgia next fall.  She has worked part-time for a year and a half at an awesome little bakery.  She borrowed money from us to buy a used Toyota Prius and has paid it off.  She is a busy girl with good friends and varied interests, and she makes me so proud.  At the moment, my heart hurts for her because she broke up with her boyfriend yesterday.  She didn’t tell me why, but I trust that she knows what is right for her.  Bonnie also had her first independent travel experience last summer when she flew to San Fransisco at visit her cousin.   


Flying solo - August 2016

at the bakery

University of North Georgia college tour

Accepted to the University of Alabama in Huntsville


Will turned 15 years old in September.  He drives us around every chance he gets.  He is attending the same school as Bonnie.  There is a great little group of kids there, and most of them were previously homeschooled.  He got his braces off in September.  He loves playing video games.  Not a whole lot else going on with him.  He's always up for anything, but perfectly happy doing nothing.   I always figured that he is content with life, which keeps him from adventuring, and that’s okay.  Not everyone has wonderlust.
 
15th birthday


Dad took him for his learner's permit


Driving the family home from church


Luke is 14.  He is still doing “school at home” with Matt, enrolled in the Georgia Cyber Academy.  He is the polar opposite of Will in that he is always cooking something up.  He sets personal goals and challenges himself daily.  Last year for Halloween, he was Rambo and drew on some fake abs.  This year he was determined to have “real” abs and dressed as a fawn to show them off.   He lifts weights, does pull-ups, and boxes on the punching bag daily.  He is anxiously awaiting his growth spurt.  He is a lot like Bonnie in that he is always coming up with money-making schemes and planning for the future.  He is also like Bonnie in that with the go-getter mindset comes issues with anxiety.  They have both seen mental health professionals in the last year or two, and it has been one of the best investments we could have made.  If kids are physically ill, you take them to a doctor.  If they are struggling in school, you get them a tutor.  There is no shame, in my opinion, in enlisting the help of a trained professional to help them if they are dealing with anxiety or depression.  I would much rather them learn coping skills now than to self-medicate later in life.  They are both doing great.

Halloween 2014

Working hard or hardly working?
Halloween 2017 - check out those abs!

my kayaking buddy

His14th birthday dinner. The Ultimeatum!

 Rosemary is in fifth grade at the local public elementary school.  She loves it.  She has a ton of friends.  She has been taking gymnastics for over a year.  She is not as enthusiastic about it as she once was, but she’s hanging in there.  She loves hanging out online with her buddies doing Snapchat and Muscially.  We have dual monitors at the computer in the study, and she will be watching a show on Netflix on one, playing a video game on the other, and have her iPod open chatting with a friend.  It stresses me out just to watch it.  I’ve been busy, but this year I have made a point to carve out some special time with my girl by reading to her at bedtime.  We have read Heidi, Finding Serendipity, and now we’re reading Little Women.

Student of the Month!

Fun 10th birthday party

Me and my mini-me - SGI 2017

2017 first day of school

Grandpa made her a balance beam
 
It's funny to think about, but Bonnie reminds me so much of me personality-wise even though she looks like Matt's mother's side of the family.  Rosemary looks like me, but she is much more outgoing than I ever was.  Will reminds me a lot of my brother Ben, and that makes me love him so much.  Luke is a lot like Matt's brother Jonathan.  He is full of grit and determination and has a booming voice.  I love to see how much they've grown and matured.  When they were babies, I loved them, and I couldn't imagine what in the world I would do with kids this age.  I didn't think I'd be able to connect with them.  But it is such an easy transition when you take things day-by-day.  They are my greatest accomplishment.  At this point, unless Luke is in a pester-some mood, they get along with each other really well.  Life is not perfect, but that is the way I'm going to remember it.  



SGI 2017

Toasting Bonnie's acceptance to UAH with Drumsticks

Christmas 2017

Christmas 2017

 Matt has been keeping himself busy managing everything for the kids.  He is their go-to parent.  It occasionally hurts my feelings, but I’m grateful.  He brings in some income with a bookstore on Amazon.  He also does a lot to keep me de-stressed as well.  We are very happy these days.  We are  looking forward to when I finish school and start a full-time job.  It will be his turn to do something for himself.  He deserves it.  He is considering the culinary arts program at the local technical college.  He enjoys it and is really good at it.  One little dream we are mulling over involves moving to the beach, me working as an NP, and him opening a restaurant that serves seafood where everything on the menu is not deep fried.  I am ready for the move, but Bonnie is more determined than ever to keep us here.  She will be three hours north of us at school, and if we move down south, she will feel like she doesn’t have a home to come home to.  I would think that was silly and manipulative except that my parents sold my childhood home when I was in college, and it really did make me feel lost.  They didn’t even move to a different town.  They moved into a rental house while they were building a house, but there wasn’t even room to store my stuff.  So I am trying to be considerate of her feelings.  I want her to have a smooth transition to college.  We’ll see.  I have no clue what I’ll be doing a year from now.  It seems like that might make me afraid, but it doesn’t.  I am excited about the wide-open possibilities before me.  





Monday, December 14, 2015

New York City Christmas



Will is 13 years old now.  Bonnie was surprised by her trip when she turned 13.  The other children know us well enough to know that we would never do that for one child and not for the others.   The other kids miss out on the surprise, but they get to decide where they want to go.  Will decided on New York City and has never wavered.   The only thing I decided for him was the dates.  I wanted to see NYC at Christmastime.   Will decided on all the things that were important to him – shopping at the World Nintendo store, going to the Statute of Liberty, and going ice skating.

Day 1 – Friday, December 5th
Our flight left at 6:30 in the morning.  The trip to the airport and through security was smooth.  Will got a window seat, and the sky was clear.  He was more excited than nervous.  Coming into LaGaurdia, we had a great view of the city.  We spotted the Statue of Liberty, the Empire State Building, and Central Park among many other things.  We took a taxi to our apartment.  We had booked the apartment on VRBO several months ago.  It was in the Hell’s Kitchen area of Midtown West.  Since the area was more residential than commercial, I was concerned about security after dark.  Our first stop after storing our luggage in the apartment hallway was to a drug store that sold pepper spray.  You can’t carry it on the plane, and you can only buy it at authorized dealers in the city after filling out a security form.  I had to do a lot of online research, but it turns out that a mom & pop drugstore right around the corner from our apartment sold it.  It turns out that we felt very safe, even after dark, but I had it anyway.   After that stop, we ate a late breakfast at Ellen’s Stardust Café.  It is a diner on the corner of 51st and Broadway that employs Broadway hopefuls, and they take turns singing while they work.  It was lots of fun.  I have never paid $55 for breakfast before, but I guess the entertainment is built into the cost.
After breakfast, we went to Rockefeller Center.  It was SO CROWDED.  People were shoulder to shoulder, walking in all directions.  It felt like swimming upstream.  No one was getting anywhere.  We watched the ice skaters for a bit and went to the Nintendo Store.  Will had fun shopping and playing on the many display games available.  After that, we bought tickets for the Top of the Rock.  It was another crowded atmosphere, but this time we were herded around like cattle.  The views from the top were breathtaking.  When Bonnie and I went, visibility was poor, but this time, you could see forever in all directions. 
By the time we finished the tour, it was 4:00, so we went to the apartment to take our luggage in and rest for a while.  After a couple of hours, we headed back out.  We got coffee and hot chocolate from Starbuck’s and sat on the red stairs in Times Square.  I was struck by how different life is in the selfie generation.  Twenty years ago, a trip to the city might have involved one camera per group of people with quick poses in front of each landmark.  Now people stop right where they are, even in a very crowded area, and take selfies constantly.  In a group of 5 people, each person has a phone taking photos at the same time.   That is part of the reason foot traffic is so congested.  People are taking photos of themselves, of other people, and stopping to evaluate the photos they just took.  I’m sure it is evident by my many photos that I am part of that, but it also seems so sad to me in a way.  Instead of enjoying moments, people are recording them, just to document for themselves and their followers that they were there.  They don’t linger, they just click and move on.  I am a people watcher, so I could have sat on those steps for hours, but Will was bored and ready to go after five minutes.  We moved on to the Disney Store, but the crowd was too thick to be able to look at anything.  We went in a few souvenir stores, too.  Finally Will got hungry, so we headed back toward home to eat at Uncle Mario’s Brick Oven Pizza.  Will had a cheese calzone, and I got a personal pizza.  Delicious.  We had told me earlier in the day that we should have more conversations, so at dinner I asked him lots of open-ended questions, but he kept giving me one-word answers!  I had to explain to him how “conversations” work.  It turns out that his cheese calzone was too cheesy, so he had to chew too much, and that gave him a headache.  Apparently it is a side effect of braces.  We made it back to the apartment and watched several episodes of Property Brothers before going to bed.  

Leaving Hartsfield-Jackson
I have an almost identical photo of Bonnie at LaGuardia.




At the Top of the Rock. That is Central Park in the background.
Our little apartment was awesome.  SO much better than a hotel room, and cheaper!

Times Square - I remember posting a photo of Bonnie like this on Facebook with the caption "enjoying the chaos". Will's face tells a different story.

I enjoyed it though.

The best part - back home chillin' with my boy.



Day 2 – Sunday, December 6th:
Bonnie and I made an event out of going to mass at Saint Patrick’s.  I had looked up their mass schedule, but I also happened to notice that there was a Catholic church just a few doors down from us.  I gave Will the option about what he wanted to do, and he said that he preferred not to go to mass at all.  Okie dokie.  I was a bit conflicted about whether or not to make him go, but in the end I decided not to.  Matt and I really enjoy going to mass when we are traveling, but Will doesn’t like going to “strange churches”, so I didn’t press the issue.  We ate leftover pizza for breakfast, and then headed out to begin our day of adventure.  The plan was to be at Battery Park to board the ferry to the Statue of Liberty at noon.  I checked the tickets several times; they definitely said noon.  We stopped at Bryant Park and watched some ice skaters.  Bryant Park in where we planned on ice skating because I thought it would be less crowded than Central Park or Rockefeller Center.  Bryant Park has a Winter Village set up with lots of shops and food vendors, and we enjoyed browsing for a while.  After that, we walked to Grand Central Station.  I had hoped to have time to do the self-guided audio tour, but time was flying by, so we bought a Metro card and got on the subway headed downtown.  We made it to Battery Park by 11:30 and went to the ticket booth.  He man handed the tickets back to me and said “these tickets are for tomorrow”.  He didn’t say “dumbass” at the end, but his eyes said it loud and clear.  I checked the time several times, but the date not so much.  Will was very forgiving.  At least we went a day early instead of a day late. 
We took that opportunity to explore lower Manhattan.  We walked to the South Street Seaport and up toward the Brooklyn Bridge.  Will had expressed interest in biking over the Brooklyn Bridge, but once we got close to it, he changed his mind.  He had not realized how massive it was.  It was midafternoon by that point, and Will was ready to rest.   We got some more Starbuck’s and took the subway back uptown to the apartment.
After an hour or two, he was ready to head out again.  We went back to Bryant Park with the intention of ice staking.  We got there to discover a long line with a wait time of approximately three hours!  I offered to stand in line while he got a pretzel and a drink, but he decided that nothing was worth a 3-hour wait.  In retrospect, I should have made reservations at Rockefeller Center.  Yes, it is crowded and expensive, but at least you show up at the time of your reservation and get to skate.  We did some more shopping in the Winter Village.  Then we headed to Fifth Avenue and shopped some more.  We stopped in at Johnny Rocket’s and ate burgers.  That was Will’s choice.  I like to eat at local places instead of chains, but there are LOTS of places Will has never eaten before, and that is one of them.  My food was delicious.  After dinner, we went to Dylan’s candy Bar.  It was all Will had dreamed it would be.  We bought edible souvenirs for the siblings.  Working our way back home, we stopped at the Apple Store.  It was awesome.  The entrance is a giant glass cube with the Apple logo on it.  You go down a glass elevator or down a spiral glass staircase to get into the store.  It was just about as crowded as the Disney Store, but still a really cool experience.   Next, Will stopped the Microsoft Store.  I was just about shopped out, and I’m not a techie, but I ended up being so glad we stopped.  Upstairs, they had a huge MineCraft section, and Will is just a tad MineCraft obsessed.  He met some like-minded people and played some PlayStation MineCraft on a giant screen.  I ate Jelly Belly jelly beans and checked in with my sweetie back home.  It was nice to let Will enjoy himself in each place we went without feeling pressured to move on.  It was his trip, and I wanted to let him enjoy it as much as possible.  When he had had his fill, we headed back to Rockefeller Center to hit the Nintendo Store one more time.  No such luck.  It was Sunday night, and they closed at 9:00.  We got there about 9:05.  We watched some street artists doing their thing, and we sat for a caricature, which in my opinion turned out terribly, but Will thought it was pure awesomeness.  Then we headed back home.  We watched more HGTV and talked about what a great time we were having in the city.


A Manhattan smoothie for breakfast while walking to the subway.
Bryant Park
at the 42st Street station about to take the train downtown
Enjoying the Financial District and South Street Seaport on a deserted Sunday afternoon.

Eureka!  Dylan's Candy Bar!  We found heaven.

Playing MineCraft on the big screen while Mama chills.

Who bought this kid Toxic Waste?

Look, we did it!  We took a selfie in front of the Rockefeller Center Christmas tree.  My mom is happy.

We walked all the way home carrying that picture pointed out like that.

 
Day 3 – Monday, December 7th
 Monday was out final day.  We woke up, got showered and ready, ate leftovers for breakfast, and cleaned and packed.  Right at 10:00, we locked up the apartment and stored our luggage.  We leisurely headed toward the subway and made our way back to Battery Park.  I stopped for coffee, and Will decided to try some falafels.  We sat on a bench by the water, and Will fed the pigeons.  Pigeons like falafels, and so do squirrels.  Around 12:00 we went through security and boarded the ferry for Lady Liberty.  We got coffee and hot chocolate and did the self-guided audio tour.  I am completely disgusted with our country’s leadership and generally have a bleak outlook for our country’s future, but the Statue of Liberty experience stirred my patriotism.  Standing below the shining torch of the giant statue made me proud to be an American.  Honestly, it was a feeling I haven’t felt in several years.  It was nice.  After even more security, we started the journey to the crown.  It was much like climbing steps in a lighthouse… steep, narrow, and seemingly endless.  The view from the top was awesome, and the rangers were informative and friendly.  After about ten minutes, we began the journey back down.   We then boarded the ferry again and went to Ellis Island.  I have always wanted to go to Ellis Island.  When Bonnie and I went to NYC, we had tickets to the Statue of Liberty, but Ellis Island was closed because of damage from Superstorm Sandy.  Then the Statue of Liberty trip got cancelled due to the government shutdown.  (See above comment about disgust with our country’s leadership.)  Ellis Island is now reopened.  All of the exhibits aren’t open yet, but most of them are.  If I ever go back to NYC, I would like to spend an entire day at Ellis Island.  It is fascinating.  It makes me curious about my ancestry.  We stayed at Ellis Island almost until closing time, which just happened to be the time we had to leave anyway.  We boarded the ferry back and were treated to a magnificent sunset behind the Statute of Liberty.  We took the subway back uptown, grabbed our luggage from the apartment, and hailed a taxi to the airport.  We made it to the airport and through security without a hitch and sat at the gate waiting for the plane.  It was delayed 20 minutes.  LaGuardia is a cute little airport.  They have iPads at tables to occupy you while you wait.  You can play games, check weather and traffic, and also order food and drinks.  I had promised Will a smoothie, so I ordered it and they delivered it to the table.  The plane arrived and we had a nice, clear flight back to ATL.  We took the shuttle back to the van, stopped and got food from Wendy’s in Austell, and made it home around 1:00 am.  Matt was waiting up for us.  Will slept late on Tuesday morning and enjoyed giving everyone their souvenirs and telling them all about his adventures in the Big Apple.  


on the ferry

This is one of the two non-selfie photos taken of us together.  It was too bright to look at the camera, but it is good documentation that Will is officially taller than me.

In the crown of the Statue of Liberty. The wavy lines are her hair.  The windows are the jewels in her crown.  Will never let go of the overhead bars.  He wasn't going down unless Lady Liberty's whole head went down.  :-)


Ellis Island Great Hall.  The photo doesn't even come close to doing it justice.   In the audio our, the point was made that the only buildings this grand in Europe were for royalty, but America built this grand structure to welcome the poor immigrants to their new home.

What a treat to turn around on the ferry and see this!

I love this kid so much.

Heading home.  Will had a great time, but he was ready to come home.

I feel so blessed to have been able to take this trip with my child.  I enjoyed spending one-on-one time with him and getting to know him better, and hopefully it is an experience he will never forget.